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Before you pass me off as the drill instructor dad, remember that most of the choices I made are to benefit us as a team. I do believe parenting is a balance, you have to know when to guide them and when to let them guide themselves. Letting a child solve their own problems allows them to gain confidence in their choices, which encourages more independence from them. When a child believes they can make the right choices, they become more alive. It started simply in my home, I would ask Emma "What would you like for breakfast? Cereal or mud?" and I would follow up with, "I think cereal was a good choice". You could see the independence growing in Emma as the importance of her choices grew. Now that Emma is older, the choices she makes have more importance on her daily life and less influence on mine. Emma suffers the consequences of her choices, like spending her Sunday evening doing schoolwork, while I'm enjoying a movie and popcorn only rooms away. LOL. Trust me, that only had to happen once before she took better control of her schoolwork schedule.
The fact that you choose to raise your child is more important than how you raise your child. As long as you have lots of love and some rules, I think you'll be ok. I'm just sharing my experience with those of you that are curious enough to read it. Feel free to leave me any comments below :)